Frustration

Hello. Welcome to Daily(ish) for February 3, Wednesday. Wednesday, February 3 is how I usually say that. It's minus 10 degrees. Feels like minus 14 outside.

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Sure Canada sent me some gear, and, and I'll be using those and reviewing them in more detail later. But she I set her up with one of the mics just to try it out, and so she recorded a little segment that then we thought, we'd include here on Daily(ish). So I actually haven't listened to all of it. I listened to part of it, but it was really fun. I just have to say before I play her clip, and that'll probably be the end of the podcast.

I won't come on afterwards. But it was really fun just to listen back to her recording with her, a bit of it, and get her to experience what it's like to have someone else listen to you ramble into a microphone and, and then hear all the things and know what's coming up because you knew remember you said this certain thing or whatever and the way you said it or what you said and, and getting to having to see someone's reaction. Because often when I come home and, you know, if I come home or upstairs or whatever and hear her listening to one of my podcasts, I make her turn it off or I leave the room. And she's like, well, don't you need to listen, you know, to get better and all that kind stuff. And so it was good to watch her squirm while I listen to her podcast recording of sorts.

So, anyways, enjoy it. She talks a bit about our kids and some frustrations as of today, and I'm recording this and pushing this out in the world at 11:43PM or so. So technically, it still is. I still have kept up from my recording of an episode a day, and in big part and huge parts and thanks to Sue recording this episode for me. So enjoy, and I'll talk to you again tomorrow.

Alright. So this is Sue's Daily(ish) today. Chris just didn't seem to have time to record a Daily(ish) today, and that is a big chunk of that is my fault because it was a bit of a crappy day for us. Not because of any particular reason, It was just kind of one of those days where every interaction Chris and I had was, a bit more emotionally charged. And so we tended to argue a little bit more today.

And, for any of you that have been married for a long time or in a really long term relationship, you'll know that sometimes with your spouse, you just have those days where you can't seem to get along and where you part of it with Chris working at home and me being a stay at home parent, we are around each other all day long. And even though when he's working, he's in his office, we pretend like he's not here. He still comes out to get a drink or comes out for lunch or if he has to go somewhere. And so we have these little interactions and sometimes when it's one of those kinds of days where we're not getting along well, then those interactions can often end up and actually be in arguments. And so then they take up way more time than they should.

And yeah, it was one of those days today. And so I know one of the reasons he didn't get to the Daily ish today is because of me and my issues. And so, I thought I would do this for him just to help him out so that he could still say he did one today. Yeah, and so I thought I would talk about one of the issues that I'm struggling with today and part of the reason why it was a crappy day and for me because I'm just really struggling with parenting stuff. And one of the things that was just wrecking my day was I just was exhausted from fighting with my kids all day long.

We have three strong willed children. And for those of you that don't really know what a strong willed child is, you probably think it's a excuse for a kid that needs more discipline or you might think that it's an excuse for a kid that, know, a parent that wants to be too controlling or whatever. But I actually spent the evening reading up on strong willed children to just give myself a little bit of, knowledge on whether it's true or not. And because sometimes I just need that, reinforcement and that something to help me understand that, or just to know that I'm not going crazy and that my kids are that type of kid that resists everything that you ask them to do, that is, you know, says no all the time, that always wants to be the one in control, that even when you give them, you know, they say to give them choices, you might say, do you want grilled cheese or tuna melts for lunch? And they say, no, I want macaroni and cheese.

And they don't care how many choices you give them. They'll just come up with the choice that they actually want and fight you tooth and nail on that choice. And yeah, that's just the kind of kids we have. And so it can be really difficult. We are coming home from a trip where we got to relax and they got to pretty well do whatever they want for almost six weeks straight.

And now we are trying to get back into regular life with routine discipline and expectations. And today was just a day where that did not go well. And sometimes I will find after I've had conversations with other moms that I can really beat myself up because those moms, they don't have the same kids that I have. And so they often talk about how, oh, you know, they just have to lay down the law and then their kids listen, or they just do this simple trick or whatever works for their kids. And I come home thinking I'm a terrible mom because I can't seem to do those things and I can't seem to get my kids to listen and yeah.

And obey. And so today I was kind of beating myself up about that and it just actually made me fight with the kids even more because then I just couldn't understand why I was doing everything wrong. I just yeah. I spent the evening just kind of looking stuff up and kind of reassuring myself that the kids that we have are just the type that are a little bit more difficult to parent. And thankfully, I'm not a weak willed parent.

I am strong enough to handle it. And I don't let the kids walk all over us and walk all over me. And I'm just trying to reassure myself that I will get through it. For those of you that are out there that are parents and that know what that's like, I just, yeah, here's my little little, giving you hope that there's other people that understand and that you're not alone in feeling exhausted and tired and like you can't do this with your kids.